Sunday, 8 March 2015

Quarter life crisis

It’s so difficult to transition back into the ‘crowd’ after you’ve been in a long term relationship, isn’t it? All the mates you had several years ago have become ‘adults’ by moving away or having kids. So you end up mingling to find a new social circle, and this puts you on the pedestal and ready to reinvent your image from boring couple participant to how you used to be. Wait, how did you used to be? It’s been so long!

You’ll go out on the town to let your hair down, and suddenly you remember why clubbing is the antitheses of fun you lie and tell yourself it was. It’s archaic method of drinking till drunk, dancing till your feet bleed and fighting off potential suitors that slide up behind you when you’re sandwiched between a friends.

So you fill your time doing other things. But wait, you can’t remember your interests from before you were tied down. Gardening? Painting? Sewing? Wait, you’ll just pretend you’re good at something and then run with it. Watching your friends nod and smile at your awful attempt at cupcakes, or that youtube video of you singing Hozier. Whatever it takes you to re-spark your ingenuinity, so be it.

I reckon post break up, you’re going to have to do the following to keep sane:
1.     Cut all ties with the ex, no they’re not your friend,
2.     Go out, have fun. Treat it as the privilege of being able to go out again,
3.     Busy your time, learn some new hobby or try to set a resolution,
Have a drastic change and either lop all your hair off, or change your wardrobe. Distance yourself from the person you remember before

If all fails, just quit your job and go to Borneo (joke). At the end of the day, it's moments like this that make us who we are.